Cardi B, Will 4Ever B Poppin 

I must admit when Cardi B first hit the Love & Hip Hop scene I was like this chick is ratchet at its finest. However, my opinion of here has changed. 

I don’t see Cardi B as the ratchet, annoying, stripper chick. I see her as the real, down to earth, I’ll f*ck you up on sight yet still be cute friend that we all need in our lives.  Plus, her comebacks are classic comedy. Between she and Chrissy Tiegen I can be on theshaderoom all day! 

And let’s not forgot, she slays us daily with the style. 

And we can’t leave out her sissy Hennessy

You can’t get prettier than her! 

I truly admire their dedication to each other. You can see sisters beefing so often and they really ride for each other. Yet another reason Cardi will forever be popping! 

Our History = Their History.

An experience worth experiencing! 

I have a deep love of history and an understanding that knowledge of the past helps us to make better decisions for the future. All of us should take the time and visit the National Museum of African American History and Culture. The history of black people in America isn’t solely our story. Other people’s know similar struggles just as much as other people placed us in situations where we as a people had to rise up and overcome barriers and obstacles and show that melanin is a gift for the strong. 

Through this museum you realize the strength, resilience and genius our ancestors possesed. I always make a joke about flipping negatives into postitives but that’s truly the attitude that was demonstrated here. 

I won’t give anything away because I want people to experience it for themselves and draw their own conclusions. What I will say is that you should definitely take the time to see what the museum has to offer! 

#ArmoireAddict: All Eyez On Me 

Who doesn’t love Pac?  Answer. Very few, well in my opinion anyway. 

This Tupac inspired “Trust Nobody” tee comes from a completely random eBay vendor. The tee is accompanied by a jean jacket and black cargos both from Forever21 and a pink, dad hat from Express. 

Rainy day ready, this look provides a carefree yet stylish approach to bad weather. Raindrops shouldn’t stop you from dressing well! 

This is a bit of a rant but the two items from Forever21 I’ve had for a LONG time. I say that because rencently within the last two years or so I’ve really stopped shopping at Forever21. We all know everyone shops at Forever21 and everyone basically buys the same clothes but that’s not the reason I’ve put the brand out of my mind. Truth me told I literally just hate going in the actual store. It’s like a constant swarm of fifteen year olds and their mothers and I just can’t take it.  Online ordering is cool until it comes to the shipping. I think their shipping takes like three years. Ok, that’s a bit of an exaggeration but I just got really frustrated with the brand. 

Sidenote: Don’t forget about the new Tupac biopic coming soon! 

Push Through Monica 

The 90’s gave us many great things, one being R&B singer Monica Brown. Monica touched our hearts with “Why I Love You So Much” and “Before You Walk Out My Life” among others hits on her debut album “Miss Thang”. She gave every female an anthem along with Brandy in “The Boy Is Mine” and gave us a tune to sing as we dismantle his car (JK! I never approve of ruining personal property), with “So Gone”.  Monica has continued to give us heart felt soul and TLC through her music. She guides us through love. Helps us accept love and even holds our hand as we get over it.  

Aside from her music, Monica has given us relationship goals with her marriage to NBA player Shannon Brown and family goals with her kids Romelo, Rodney and Laiyah. She creates a life to aspire to. No her life isn’t perfect. I’m sure she’s had marital discourse she’s married to an athlete. No shade but athletes get a bad rep in relationships. Everyone is susceptible to cheating but athletes get an unfair advantage.  Her kids probably irritate her soul some days but she still shows us the wonderful things her kids do.  She’s made my heart melt with her kids pictures. Through whatever she continues to be PRIVATE, POSITIVE and NEVER PETTY. Let’s face it, that’s a pretty hard thing to do in 2017.  

What I absolutely love about Monica and what prompted me to write this post is her effect as a cheerleader. I can go on Instagram everyday and see Monica in my feed supporting somebody. Real, genuine support. No matter who someone is or what their background is you can see Monica opening her arms and telling the world they’re about to be somebody.  Her support for women and African Americans and anybody in general is unreal. She has talent and she has no problem spreading her talent or her love. Monica throws love not shade! 

My auntie always told me that pretty is as pretty does. Monica embodies that to me. She isn’t just a pretty face. Her ability to be relatable in every part of her life and her genuine additiude make her beautiful. We know black don’t crack but beauty on the inside makes the outside more attractive. Shoutout to Monica for making me want to glow up inside! 

Miracle On A Stick

Since I’ve started going to my stylist Tea this summer I’ve always wanted to know her method to keeping my edges laid. Edges are of the upmost importance to me but sometimes they just won’t stay. It irritates my whole soul and I just give up on my look for that day. Well I started paying more attention while she was doing my hair and this stick thing caught my attention. Everytime she would finish my hair she would use this stick and slick back my edges and lay down my hair at the top. Wanting to know more I googled and came across the answer to my question. Tancho Tique Stick, now I’m not sure if it’s the same brand my stylist uses but it handles the job all the same. 

I’ve tried all types of edge controls and they never seem to work when I need them the most. The best one besides the Tancho Tique Stick is the Jireh Edge Control. 

Anyway, I love this product because you only need a little slab on both sides and it lasts you for days, especially if you keep your hair wrapped up. This product is truly a God send. When I use this my edges don’t curl up like they usually do after I apply edge control or when it gets hot and I sweat.  

Moral of the story I support this product. If you’re looking to invest in an inexpensive product that keeps your hair exactly how you want it, I recommend this for you. 

Videos That Made Love Real 

SouthSide, Lloyd ft. Ashanti 

When Lloyd came out with SouthSide I was like 10 years old and completely in love with Lloyd and his beautiful hair and equally as obsessed with Ashanti.  That video was like the perfect amount of everything I needed love to be at 10. To be honest it’s still one my favorite songs. I guess it’s something fascinating about thinking about lying to your daddy over a guy. That’s like the two great loves in your life being at war over you. SouthSide to me was a positive image for black love. It was like I love you, you love me, let’s go get our chicken and love each other. 

You Don’t Know My Name, Alicia Keys 

We all know when Alicia dialed homeboys number to ask him on that date all out hearts dropped a little. I remember watching 106 & Park like girl don’t do that, you’re pretty you don’t need to act desperate. But in true Alicia Keys fashion, she showed us that men don’t always have to take the first step. Being older I realize that more, sometimes you have to put your big girl panties on and ask the hard questions.  You Don’t Know My Name also proved that pretty girls always respond to the man in the nice tailored suit.  Seriously though, Alicia was like every female ever feigning over the man of her dreams. It was poetic and beautiful. 

Promise, Jagged Edge 

It could just be me but I love me some Jagged Edge.  Promise was just what it’s name suggested. It proved that black love was real and that no matter the many inconveniences of daily life you could count on your partner to be down for you. 

We Belong Together, Mariah Carey 

My friends know that is one of my favorite videos of all time.  Who doesn’t end up in a rebound relationship where the person is really nice or whatever but they’re just not what you want for your life. Mariah embodied that. She showed black love and proved that real love means owning mistakes and taking the appropriate actions to not mess up your life forever by marrying someone not for you. Plus, that dress was EVERYTHING!

Walked Outta Heaven, Jagged Edge 

Of course, Jagged Edge again. Walked Outta Heaven screams love because he walked out but then he felt remorseful about it. And it wasn’t a little bit of remorse it was like ride around with your friends and talk about it until they feel crappy remorseful.  But he wasn’t just remorseful he was remorseful and came back. Let’s repeat that! He came back. Enough said. Any man or woman for that amatter who comes back after they probably should’ve won the argument proves they love you and they’re willing to work it out with you.

Why I Love You So Much, Monica 

My girl Monica. Everything Monica does is beautiful and inspiring but Why I Love You So Much stands out because it’s when she first came out so she was young. Monica was out here singing about her boo holding her down and waiting for her. For any young girl especially, finding someone who’s willing to not put pressure on you is a major find and worth singing about. Why I Love You So Much along with Before You Walk Out My Life displayed Monica’s maturity and her true understanding of real love. In both songs she stressed the importance of being comfortable which we sometimes forget. It’s easy to get caught up in what the other person wants and lose sight of yourself. Monica gave us love by telling us real love starts with self first. 

Dontchange, Musiq Soulchild 

Dontchange gives the world a glimpse into black love in truest form. This video shows the highs and lows of life and relationships.  Everyone wants to know somebody is going to be there when they’re 73 and all their body parts are falling off. Having the confidence in your significant other to constantly see the best in you when you don’t quite see it yourself is goals for every relationship.  

I’ll Make Love To You, Boyz II Men 

How could I possibly have a list about videos showing black love without Boyz II Men.  I remember being like 5 and 6 years old watching this old tape of videos with my big sister. Whenever I’ll Make Love To You came on I always thought when I grow up I’m going to have a boyfriend that buys me security systems and light candle for my bubble bath. Needless to say I’ll Make Love To You is where I’m trying to be in life. 

#ArmoireAddict: Butter&Gold 

Are Timbs a regional thing or a racial thing? I ask the question because Timbs have become a staple in the African American and Hispanic  culture. Everyone knows that any man, woman and baby has at least one pair of Timbs in New York.  That analysis makes the answer regional. However, the same can be assumed of those in D.C.  Whatever the real answer is one can’t deny the effect that the boots have on culture. You can even widen the scope. It’s no secret African American culture paves the way thus making Timbs culturally relevant to the fashionable and trendy.

90’s culture saw the rise of Timbs as a fashion statement and the 90’s rewind of the recent 2010’s has recovered its visibility.  Timbs relevancy in our daily life has even gone so far as to project the status of the wearer.  Like who doesn’t want a family picture with hubby and the baby and everybody’s wearing Timbs? Pictures like that exude prosperity and happiness. Ok, that might be a stretch but you get the point.

What I Love About Kehlani 

If you don’t know Kehlani recently dropped an album SweetSexySavage.  If you’re still unaware of who Kehlani is she’s the artist who was formerly with PartyNextDoor and Cavs player Kyrie Irving. 

But that’s not what I want to get into. What I’m trying to talk about is the fact that I love Kehlani and her music. It never fails, whenever I hear one of her songs it just speaks to my soul. It’s like she’s in my spirit recording thoughts and feelings I’m not at liberty to share. 

Her songs about constant battles with self and relationships are really all that’s going on in my personal life. There’s someone who’s always going to be there but not be there like Down For You with BJ the Chicago Kid.  There’s someone who doesn’t make an effort like In My Feelings and Piece of Mind.  There’s definitely a Distraction dude. Yet, I still have complete faith in myself and my actions like she does in Personal.  

Basically, Kehlani gives a voice to the madness inside my head. I feel like that’s the mark of a truly great artist. Being relatable and connecting to people on a deeper level. I’ve always turned to music to feel that void where I really couldn’t talk about something. I’ve found that her music really relates to me personally. I genuinely feel as is if her music is a part of her and her struggles and her goals and her dreams.  In today’s struggling industry where club hits make no sense at all music that means something gets lost in the hype. 

Anyway! I love me some SweetSexySavage. Go check it out. 

Peace & Love 

A Diamond Really Is A Girls Best Friend

If my love for old movies has taught me anything it’s that Marilyn had the right idea when she told us “diamonds are a girls best friend” in her 1953 hit Gentlemen Prefer Blondesit’s on Netflix go check it out.  It’s no secret that for some mysterious reason women, more specifically black women, have this weird obsessiveness with Marilyn Monroe.  I don’t know if it was her ability to con millions of people into believing she was just some dumb blonde, that fact that she was out here doing JFK or her apparent sense of style but whatever the reason her life and art are ingrained upon our society.  Excessive, Elaborate, Luxurious and Timeless are traits she inevitably portrayed and standards at which we try so very hard to maintain today.

It is the love for the finer things in life that have made quality a high commodity.  We want the best of the best in clothes, jewelry and of course hair.  Hair extensions and hair extension services are a extremely lucrative business.  Everything about the new generation is prototype beauty so to speak.  We all want to wear Chanel on a Andy, from The Devil Wears Prada, budget – before she got the makeover.  In a world full of beauty tips and tricks we want real insight on companies that can actually fit our high standard.

Diamond Dynasty Hair Co. deals with selling of weave.  You name it they got it bundles, frontals, closures, Indian, Malaysian, Mink, Brazilian, etc.  I’m sure you’ve seen plenty of YouTube tutorials and Love & Hip Hop celebrities, for lack of a better word, like Rasheeda Frost, who might I add slays on a daily basis, promoting this brand.  Well your girl bought into the brand and it’s held me down since November.  So I really don’t even have to say that it’s worth the buy.  I kept the same install from November 1st until a couple weeks ago on January 19th.  That is the LONGEST I have ever kept the same install.  Usually I get tired of the hair or I feel like the hair just isn’t holding up like it should be.  Now don’t get me wrong, you get what you pay for so my Bobbi  Boss hair lasted a good little while for the fact that it was $30 a pack.

I purchased the loosewave, Indian 14″, 16″ and 18″ for $195.00.  I prefer to buy Indian versus Brazilian or Malaysian because I feel it works better with my hair type. When I first got the hair it was that “natural” brown color.  I saw on several YouTube tutorials that the hair didn’t take well to dye.  My stylist dyed the hair black with ease. The dye rinses out with washes but not in a dramatic way where I have to redye it every wash.  The first dye job is still holding up even after the second install.  I’ll probably get it redyed with the next install if I have it put back in.  The curl pattern dropped slightly after being dyed but that wasn’t really an issue for me because I didn’t plan on wearing the hair in its natural state.  Diamond Dynasty products come with instructions for care.  If you purchase the hair be cognoscente of the instructions they are extremely useful for the maintenance of the hair.  As per the instructions, I washed the hair every 2-3 weeks with the OGX brand shampoo and conditioner.  This routine wasn’t hard for me to get into because I follow a similar regimen and I already use the OGX brand so I wasn’t out buying new product.

All in all I give the hair and the company a 9 out of 10.  Pretty high rating for pretty quality hair!


Here’s a look at my new growth after my first install!

Still Missing My Bun

It’s been since November 2015 when I last cut my hair.  My cut was hot and I gave major shoutouts to my sister for her skills with the scissors.  But long hair was always my life and I miss it so much! Hair growing back, especially black hair is a game of patience and as I’ve said before God didn’t gift that gift to me.  My need to maintain my illusion of long hair is probably what’s heightened my love of weaves.  But even with the  weaves, traditional or versatile, lace or sew-in nothing beats being in a rush and throwing my hair up in that messy bun.  You could almost associate it with a dependency problem.

I can wear buns with my weave or even get my hair styled to just be a bun but the feeling isn’t the same.  I’m also extremely lazy and there’s just to much effort that goes into trying to make a weave bun look natural. Unless it’s a lace wig which in that case it’s extremely easy but the up-keep for that is like every 2 weeks and that’s team to much.

My hair has grown a lot in this last year but it’s still not there and it just makes me sad. Until I get back to chanting “long hair don’t care”, I’ll stick to my weaves but that $175 just hits sometimes.  Like when I already spent my whole life in the mall.

With all that’s going on in 2017 trivial things like my bun seem petty to rant about but it’s the little things like my bun that keep me sane.  In a world, that appears to be full of destruction and heartache and second guessing your neighbors political affiliation pawning for my messy bun to return gives me faith that four years flies by and that constitutional checks and balances can suffice until the messy bun can be reinstated.