How I: Keep the Curls Alive 

I recently had my old hair sewn in again by a very talented Baltimore stylist. The hair was from my frontal install last summer featured in Stylist Alert! and dyed black featured in From Brown to Black

I believe the texture is Brazillian deep wave or beach wave or something of that nature. To keep my curls looking fresh every day I have two go to routines. 

One routine is simple bantu knots. About five small ones at the top to blend my leave out and the twelve inch bundles. Then the bottom is sectioned off into either three or four large bantu knots. 

Another routine is the same five small bantu knots and then four or five braids at the bottom.  

The last routine is just five or six braids, braided from the leave out down. 


In the morning, I simply unravel. I spray a little water on the individual braid or bantu knot add some Miss Jessie’s Soft Curl and let it dry. 


And this is the end result! 

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Miracle On A Stick

Since I’ve started going to my stylist Tea this summer I’ve always wanted to know her method to keeping my edges laid. Edges are of the upmost importance to me but sometimes they just won’t stay. It irritates my whole soul and I just give up on my look for that day. Well I started paying more attention while she was doing my hair and this stick thing caught my attention. Everytime she would finish my hair she would use this stick and slick back my edges and lay down my hair at the top. Wanting to know more I googled and came across the answer to my question. Tancho Tique Stick, now I’m not sure if it’s the same brand my stylist uses but it handles the job all the same. 

I’ve tried all types of edge controls and they never seem to work when I need them the most. The best one besides the Tancho Tique Stick is the Jireh Edge Control. 


Anyway, I love this product because you only need a little slab on both sides and it lasts you for days, especially if you keep your hair wrapped up. This product is truly a God send. When I use this my edges don’t curl up like they usually do after I apply edge control or when it gets hot and I sweat.  

Moral of the story I support this product. If you’re looking to invest in an inexpensive product that keeps your hair exactly how you want it, I recommend this for you. 

A Diamond Really Is A Girls Best Friend

If my love for old movies has taught me anything it’s that Marilyn had the right idea when she told us “diamonds are a girls best friend” in her 1953 hit Gentlemen Prefer Blondesit’s on Netflix go check it out.  It’s no secret that for some mysterious reason women, more specifically black women, have this weird obsessiveness with Marilyn Monroe.  I don’t know if it was her ability to con millions of people into believing she was just some dumb blonde, that fact that she was out here doing JFK or her apparent sense of style but whatever the reason her life and art are ingrained upon our society.  Excessive, Elaborate, Luxurious and Timeless are traits she inevitably portrayed and standards at which we try so very hard to maintain today.

It is the love for the finer things in life that have made quality a high commodity.  We want the best of the best in clothes, jewelry and of course hair.  Hair extensions and hair extension services are a extremely lucrative business.  Everything about the new generation is prototype beauty so to speak.  We all want to wear Chanel on a Andy, from The Devil Wears Prada, budget – before she got the makeover.  In a world full of beauty tips and tricks we want real insight on companies that can actually fit our high standard.

Diamond Dynasty Hair Co. deals with selling of weave.  You name it they got it bundles, frontals, closures, Indian, Malaysian, Mink, Brazilian, etc.  I’m sure you’ve seen plenty of YouTube tutorials and Love & Hip Hop celebrities, for lack of a better word, like Rasheeda Frost, who might I add slays on a daily basis, promoting this brand.  Well your girl bought into the brand and it’s held me down since November.  So I really don’t even have to say that it’s worth the buy.  I kept the same install from November 1st until a couple weeks ago on January 19th.  That is the LONGEST I have ever kept the same install.  Usually I get tired of the hair or I feel like the hair just isn’t holding up like it should be.  Now don’t get me wrong, you get what you pay for so my Bobbi  Boss hair lasted a good little while for the fact that it was $30 a pack.

I purchased the loosewave, Indian 14″, 16″ and 18″ for $195.00.  I prefer to buy Indian versus Brazilian or Malaysian because I feel it works better with my hair type. When I first got the hair it was that “natural” brown color.  I saw on several YouTube tutorials that the hair didn’t take well to dye.  My stylist dyed the hair black with ease. The dye rinses out with washes but not in a dramatic way where I have to redye it every wash.  The first dye job is still holding up even after the second install.  I’ll probably get it redyed with the next install if I have it put back in.  The curl pattern dropped slightly after being dyed but that wasn’t really an issue for me because I didn’t plan on wearing the hair in its natural state.  Diamond Dynasty products come with instructions for care.  If you purchase the hair be cognoscente of the instructions they are extremely useful for the maintenance of the hair.  As per the instructions, I washed the hair every 2-3 weeks with the OGX brand shampoo and conditioner.  This routine wasn’t hard for me to get into because I follow a similar regimen and I already use the OGX brand so I wasn’t out buying new product.


All in all I give the hair and the company a 9 out of 10.  Pretty high rating for pretty quality hair!

 

Here’s a look at my new growth after my first install!

The Natural Hair Bar: An Entrepreneurial Experience

Good Afternoon Lovelies,

Today I have a favor to ask of you.  I want to know if a professional service dedicated to all things natural (products, styling, education) would be worth an investment.

Here’s the concept:

The idea behind this concept stems from the rising natural hair movement in the African American community.  The Natural Hair Bar will educate and preform the maintenance, health and growth of natural hair.  The products and services available will include: protective styling (braiding/weaves/wigs/etc.), protective styling tools (diffuser, etc.), imported hair, natural hair products (Jireh/Miss Jessies/Coconut Oil/etc.), Barbie dolls, flatirons, flexi-rods and stretching plates.  Partnerships with natural hair brands will be important as well as securing 100% remy, human hair imports.  There will also be certified natural hair stylist and education persons to ensure the highest quality for clients.  The Natural Hair Bar will be an upscale environment inclusive for women and men.

After reading this, what do you think? Would you enjoy something like this? Would you pay for it? How much?

Let me know, the good and especially THE BAD! Comment, comment, comment!

Stylist Alert!

Over the summer, I did a little bit of experimenting.  I got my first frontal! Being that this was a momentous occasion that deserved and required nothing but the best I had to get a stylist.  Hair is very important to me.  In my opinion it makes or breaks vision on any given day.  Also, I never let other people touch my hair, except for my sister (i.e. the person responsible for my custom colors) and the lovely Ms. Tina.  With that being said, the hunt was on to find a stylist. 


I believe the secret to successful hair is the right stylist (or at least a guiding hand).  Don’t flake on me and stop reading cause I said you need a stylist. In all actuality you don’t need a stylist but sometimes an expert opinion can be helpful even for the best do-it-yourselfers.

Trust me! I speak from experience. Your stylist is the person that’ll hit you with that reality check (ex. “cut them ends”).  A stylist isn’t there to scam money out of you or to hurt you in any way. You have to think of a stylist like your annual check up at the dentist. It’s your job to take care of your teeth but the dentists job to tell you you’re on the right track. The same goes for a stylist. They lay the ground work and you keep it going for the next three months.

Anyway, back to me so thanks to the lovely StyleSeat I was  able to find my stylist with no hassle at all.  When I tell you that Tea is heaven sent, I mean it! Y’all know all the black hair salon clichés, late, talking, ninety-nine kids running around, your hair is never dry, you don’t leave till forty-eight hours later etc.  There is absolutely none of that with Tea.  You have the salon and the chair all to yourself.  But that’s just icing on the cake, I found a stylist wth knowledge and skill.  The experience was cenetered around healthy, growing hair from the products used to how she layed the braids and the frontal.  Appointments every two weeks are insisted upon espeacially with a frontal not only to ensure that your hair slays but also for the care of your real hair, mainly those edges.

The tricky part about a stylist is finding one that has your best interest at heart. When I tell you quality over quantity you better believe it. You have to become the FBI when looking for a stylist. You dig up all their hair dirt. You can’t just take pictures you need testimonials and a trial run. Don’t just stick with anybody because there cheap. Cheap isn’t always better! Don’t stick around because of loyalty either. “She’s been doing my hair for years,” well that’s why it looks awful. Maybe you need to find somebody to put some redirection in your life. Your stylist should be just the right amount of wonderful in all aspects of hair, whether it’s natural or permed, braided or in locs, sew in, wig or lace. And you know you’ve found the right person when they hit you with “we’ve got to think about your edges”.  Truth is the most important factor in a stylist.


I’ve seen dozens of women with no edges and balding hair due to lack of hair care and a terribly indecent stylist. Moral of the story, if you don’t have a stylist get you one.

Do We Have A Problem

One thing that every natural girl knows is that she’s going to face some indefinent problems. Whether it’s that never ending struggle with shrinkage or someone just not understanding the motives behind her big chop.

  

1.Why can I never have a consistent curl pattern

           Maybe it’s just me but my curl pattern has never been consistent. The back of my        hair has always had a tighter curl than the sides and the top.  It can make life really difficult when you’re trying out new YouTube tutorials.

2.I’m not baldheaded! I’m reconstructing my curls!

           Just because someone decides on a big chop it does not mean that she has no hair, nor does it mean that she can’t grow hair.  Sometimes the most refreshing and helpful thing you can do for you hair is cut it.  Besides who doesn’t like trying out the cute short looks. I mean I live for @thecutlife on IG.

3.BAA (Big Ass Afro) & Long Hair Don’t Care are Equivalent

          Tight coils don’t always mean short hair.  Shrinkage is really real and it lies.  Shrinkage is basically the devil.

  

4.4C Hair Is Not Nappy

           There’s a strong perception in the media that loose curls are everything.  Don’t get me wrong they’re beautiful on the girls that have them.  But you know how society is if there’s a positive image there has to be a negative image.  So tight curls and kinky hair have been negated and to those persons who aren’t as culturally “woke” as others 4C hair can be seen as bad. Simply NOT true!

5. When Your Ends Dry Faster Than Your Roots

My own personal problem! Roots stay lying to you.  Wash days are tragic.  You think you’re all dry and that protective style is about to be lit.  Lies!  You’re roots have a different story.  Go ahead and two strand twists those bad boys back up.  You’re not going anywhere but to sleep until those roots dry.  Hopefully! Even in the morning you can be taking a chance.

6. Why Can I Never Just Use a Full Line of Products

I have never understood why I can’t use a complete product line.  At the most, I can use the same shampoo and conditioner, but then you add the oils, the hair milk, the holding gel, and my fav the edge control.  What is life without edge control?  Like why do companies even make full lines.  I know the technical reason I’ve learned about it in school but as a natural chick I just don’t see the purpose.

 

 

 

Bundle of Bundles 

Oh how we love the BUNDLES! Here are five places where you can get all your go to needs on bundles and wigs.

  
1.BIG CHOP HAIR: @bigchophair

BIG CHOP HAIR offers a range of extension products including bundles, clip-ins, partial wigs and closures.  Most of the items offered under BIG CHOP HAIR are of a natural texture, meaning curly.  The products span from all the hair types (Porosity, BKT & Other Strange Things ). There’s something for everyone whether curly or straight.  Also, with their products being real hair versus synthetic you  can be versatile and switch from look to look.

2.WowAfrican: @wowafrican

WowAfrican has bundles, closures- weaves and hair, lace fronts and partials  and clip-ins.  WowAfrican has a wide variety of virgin hair options ranging from Brazilian, Peruvian, Malaysian, Indian and European. They also offer hair accessories like clips for DIY clip-ins. WowAfrican also has straight, curly and coily options for all hair needs.  WowAfrican is also endorsed by YouTube vlogger and Instagram sensation Alyssa Forever (@foreverflawlyss).

  
3..HerGivenHair: @hergivenhair

HerGivenHair prides itself on offering extensions especially for those natural girls.  Clip-ins, bundles and closures are offered in all hair types/textures.  Along with hair, HerGivenHair also gives tutorials and hair inspiration on their website and social media pages for how to’s on wearing their product. HerGivenHair also offers blown out pieces for those girls who want a different kind of look or style.

4. City Republik: @citygirlcurlz

Along with wigs, both full and partial, City Republik also sells clothing.  City Republiks offerings aren’t as extensive as other sites.  However, the products they do sell for hair are quite beautiful.  The wigs sold are extremely full and voluptuous.  They give great body and life to whoever happens to wearing.  City Rebuplik also gives hair tutorials for their products and what other products work well.

5.Come Take A Puff: @cometakeapuff

Come Take A Puff speacilizes n custom units done by hand.  Wigs are the item of choice including lace fronts and bobs.  Items vary from short to long and curly to straight.  All items on Come Take A Puff are quality items made from quality hair.  They owner even wears them herself.  That’s how you know it’s good!

 

Lesson #1: The Unbreakable Bond

As a baby, our first loves become our mothers and fathers, siblings, grandparents, etc. They teach us life’s fundamentals like how to walk, talk, what to eat, what to wear.  They give us strength, courage, honesty and respect.  The people you look up to as a child become your first and greatest role models.  With that being said, every moment that we spend with them becomes more precious and the lessons they teach us become forever engrained into us.


One of the first lessons taught to little girls whether they know it or not is the importance of brushing her hair.  I know that sounds crazy but it’s true.  Some of my oldest memories are of me sitting in my grandmothers lap and getting my hair done. A little girl getting her hair combed has a deeper meaning.  It means a lot more than just getting pretty before the day begins.  It teaches the importance of loving yourself and everything that comes with it including your hair.  It teaches that your hair is an extension of yourself and that your maintenance and display of it can reveal more of your personality than a two hour conversation.

For a little girl, getting her hair done has just one large value, love.  Think about it.  When you’re out, let’s say at the mall, and you see a mother and daughter.  You look at the mother and she is slaying from Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.’s mountain top, then your eyes trickle on down to the little girl.  What do you see?  In your eyes, it’s an unloved little girl.  Yes, maybe she had a rough day at school.  Maybe during recess her edges got a little un-slicked.  Maybe nap time just a got a little to intense.  Hey, it happens to the best of us. However, that’s not the case in this scenario.  Why is that not the case? It’s not the case because you continue to look down at the little girl and her whole appearance just seems unkempt.  More than mismatched or tattered but uncared for.  When a little girl gets her hair done she knows she is loved unconditionally.

  
There’s a father and daughter on Instagram (@icemikeloveasia) and the two of them have gone completely viral.  Partly because Asia is like utterly adorable and also because of the concept behind the videos.  The father, Mike repeatedly displays his unconditional love for his daughter.  By simply brushing his daughters hair in the morning, he’s teaching her love for him, love for her, and love for her hair even if it’s different from mainstream media (long and straight).

  
 I remember spending Saturday’s with my daddy when I was little and mommy was at work.  Every Saturday morning he did my hair in two pig tails, quite nicely I might add.  Then we would go out, maybe to eat or maybe just to the store to gets parts for a car he was working on.  The point is that the destination didn’t matter only the action, the action of doing my hair.

  
My last piece of advice, on this post, is to do your daughters hair (your sons too for that matter).  It matters!

P.S. Don’t forget to do it properly. 

It’s Lit! 

Spring has arrived, and with it those lovely sun rays. It’s never easy when the heat comes around. Your hair can poof up with the humidity. It can curl up due to sweat, or it can simply dry up cause it’s too hot to hold the moisture in. Here are a few hacks to keep your hair in tact. 

Bantu Knot Up Do   

Bantu Knots are a quick and easy way to style your hair and they usually last for a good length of time. This protective style also works well with short or long hair and any type of cut. I have a short cut right now and the picture above shows me wearing the style. There’s no extra hair added. It’s all me. You simply brush up the back, hold it with whichever hold you use, and bantu knot the front. 

Braids/Cornrows  
Braids are the perfect way to beat the heat. Plus, there are a million different types of braids. My niece has the two long side cornrows. This has recently become a trendy style being worn by the Kardashians and renamed “boxer braids” 😂 but this post isn’t about appropriation. Don’t get me wrong I don’t have a problem with them wearing braids. I actually think they look really cute on them. I take issue with the fact that it wasn’t “cute” until the another culture started doing it. Anyway, there’s more than one opinion on the matter like there’s more than one type of braid. 

  

Here’s my very lovely Ms. Tatum making braids and twists look absolutely fabulous. 

Sew-In/Lace-Front  

Weaves and wigs are a perfect hack for summertime hair. You get a few good bundles and you’re all set. Sew-In methods like the Vixen Sew-In are perfect because they allow for versatility. Lace Front wigs have also made a fabulous comeback. Watch a couple tutorials on YouTube and you’ll see. The lace front game has definitely changed. 

Whatever style of method you choose to use I pray that the humidity doesn’t kill you and that your edges remain forever in place and laid to the gods.