What I Love About Kehlani 

If you don’t know Kehlani recently dropped an album SweetSexySavage.  If you’re still unaware of who Kehlani is she’s the artist who was formerly with PartyNextDoor and Cavs player Kyrie Irving. 

But that’s not what I want to get into. What I’m trying to talk about is the fact that I love Kehlani and her music. It never fails, whenever I hear one of her songs it just speaks to my soul. It’s like she’s in my spirit recording thoughts and feelings I’m not at liberty to share. 

Her songs about constant battles with self and relationships are really all that’s going on in my personal life. There’s someone who’s always going to be there but not be there like Down For You with BJ the Chicago Kid.  There’s someone who doesn’t make an effort like In My Feelings and Piece of Mind.  There’s definitely a Distraction dude. Yet, I still have complete faith in myself and my actions like she does in Personal.  

Basically, Kehlani gives a voice to the madness inside my head. I feel like that’s the mark of a truly great artist. Being relatable and connecting to people on a deeper level. I’ve always turned to music to feel that void where I really couldn’t talk about something. I’ve found that her music really relates to me personally. I genuinely feel as is if her music is a part of her and her struggles and her goals and her dreams.  In today’s struggling industry where club hits make no sense at all music that means something gets lost in the hype. 

Anyway! I love me some SweetSexySavage. Go check it out. 

Peace & Love 

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A Diamond Really Is A Girls Best Friend

If my love for old movies has taught me anything it’s that Marilyn had the right idea when she told us “diamonds are a girls best friend” in her 1953 hit Gentlemen Prefer Blondesit’s on Netflix go check it out.  It’s no secret that for some mysterious reason women, more specifically black women, have this weird obsessiveness with Marilyn Monroe.  I don’t know if it was her ability to con millions of people into believing she was just some dumb blonde, that fact that she was out here doing JFK or her apparent sense of style but whatever the reason her life and art are ingrained upon our society.  Excessive, Elaborate, Luxurious and Timeless are traits she inevitably portrayed and standards at which we try so very hard to maintain today.

It is the love for the finer things in life that have made quality a high commodity.  We want the best of the best in clothes, jewelry and of course hair.  Hair extensions and hair extension services are a extremely lucrative business.  Everything about the new generation is prototype beauty so to speak.  We all want to wear Chanel on a Andy, from The Devil Wears Prada, budget – before she got the makeover.  In a world full of beauty tips and tricks we want real insight on companies that can actually fit our high standard.

Diamond Dynasty Hair Co. deals with selling of weave.  You name it they got it bundles, frontals, closures, Indian, Malaysian, Mink, Brazilian, etc.  I’m sure you’ve seen plenty of YouTube tutorials and Love & Hip Hop celebrities, for lack of a better word, like Rasheeda Frost, who might I add slays on a daily basis, promoting this brand.  Well your girl bought into the brand and it’s held me down since November.  So I really don’t even have to say that it’s worth the buy.  I kept the same install from November 1st until a couple weeks ago on January 19th.  That is the LONGEST I have ever kept the same install.  Usually I get tired of the hair or I feel like the hair just isn’t holding up like it should be.  Now don’t get me wrong, you get what you pay for so my Bobbi  Boss hair lasted a good little while for the fact that it was $30 a pack.

I purchased the loosewave, Indian 14″, 16″ and 18″ for $195.00.  I prefer to buy Indian versus Brazilian or Malaysian because I feel it works better with my hair type. When I first got the hair it was that “natural” brown color.  I saw on several YouTube tutorials that the hair didn’t take well to dye.  My stylist dyed the hair black with ease. The dye rinses out with washes but not in a dramatic way where I have to redye it every wash.  The first dye job is still holding up even after the second install.  I’ll probably get it redyed with the next install if I have it put back in.  The curl pattern dropped slightly after being dyed but that wasn’t really an issue for me because I didn’t plan on wearing the hair in its natural state.  Diamond Dynasty products come with instructions for care.  If you purchase the hair be cognoscente of the instructions they are extremely useful for the maintenance of the hair.  As per the instructions, I washed the hair every 2-3 weeks with the OGX brand shampoo and conditioner.  This routine wasn’t hard for me to get into because I follow a similar regimen and I already use the OGX brand so I wasn’t out buying new product.


All in all I give the hair and the company a 9 out of 10.  Pretty high rating for pretty quality hair!

 

Here’s a look at my new growth after my first install!

Still Missing My Bun

It’s been since November 2015 when I last cut my hair.  My cut was hot and I gave major shoutouts to my sister for her skills with the scissors.  But long hair was always my life and I miss it so much! Hair growing back, especially black hair is a game of patience and as I’ve said before God didn’t gift that gift to me.  My need to maintain my illusion of long hair is probably what’s heightened my love of weaves.  But even with the  weaves, traditional or versatile, lace or sew-in nothing beats being in a rush and throwing my hair up in that messy bun.  You could almost associate it with a dependency problem.

I can wear buns with my weave or even get my hair styled to just be a bun but the feeling isn’t the same.  I’m also extremely lazy and there’s just to much effort that goes into trying to make a weave bun look natural. Unless it’s a lace wig which in that case it’s extremely easy but the up-keep for that is like every 2 weeks and that’s team to much.

My hair has grown a lot in this last year but it’s still not there and it just makes me sad. Until I get back to chanting “long hair don’t care”, I’ll stick to my weaves but that $175 just hits sometimes.  Like when I already spent my whole life in the mall.

With all that’s going on in 2017 trivial things like my bun seem petty to rant about but it’s the little things like my bun that keep me sane.  In a world, that appears to be full of destruction and heartache and second guessing your neighbors political affiliation pawning for my messy bun to return gives me faith that four years flies by and that constitutional checks and balances can suffice until the messy bun can be reinstated.

Bobbi Boss

For the past three weeks, I’ve been wearing a long, blunt cut bob using Bobbi Boss hair.  Bobbi Boss is a premiere brand that I came across in the beauty supply store.  I know “premiere” and “beauty supply don’t exactly go together.  With a field, in marketing, I’m well aware that price and place often effect the perception of the product and the value it has in our minds.


Anyway, I took a trip to the beauty supply store because I just wanted some cheap hair for the style I wanted to try.  As I said before, it’s long, blunt cut bob.  I figured that since I wanted to cut the hair for the bob I didn’t want to shell out a lot of money, and I only wanted  like 12 or 14 inches, keep it simple. Now when I say cheap hair I don’t mean synthetic, nor do I mean shed my life away.  So off jump, at the beauty supply store options are limited.  I browsed and saw the Bobbi Boss Blaze brand.  Just for clarification, Bobbi Boss has several brands and several different types of hair.  The Blaze brand is one of the cheaper brands and is characterized as Human Hair (Yaky) not Remy, which is known for being more premiere and of a higher quality and grade.  I purchased two packs of the Blaze 12 and 14 inches for like $36 each.  Each pack has two bundles.


I went and had the hair installed by Tea (go check her out).Since the hair was being cut and it was cheap I expected to see a lot of shedding in the days after my install.  Nope! There has been like no shedding at all in three weeks! Except for the natural shedding when you brush, that your natural hair experiences.  Because I’m used to always getting Indian, Remy hair because it matches best with my real hair I wasn’t sure if the texture of the Blaze was going to blend well.  Well it does.  The Blaze brand did an extremely good job at looking just like my real hair, it blends wonderfully.  I was also skeptical that because it was so cheap that after a few days wear and tear it would start to tangle up.  Not the case.  I only experienced some tangle when I curled the hair and constantly put holding spray on it because I was redoing the curls. But there’s a quick remedy for that.  A nice shampoo, conditioning and blow out and the hair is back to its normal glossy state with no tangles and no shedding as promised by the companies tag line.


The Blaze brand is the only brand I’ve tried under Bobbi Boss but I intend to try more.  This brand surpassed my expectations and is a great way to look good without breaking the bank.  But my sister and I always say that its not how much you pay for your hair but how you take care of it.  I always try to treat any extensions like my own hair.  That means wrapping, washing, etc.  And let’s not forgot that a bomb stylist can make anything look good.

 

 

The Natural Hair Bar: An Entrepreneurial Experience

Good Afternoon Lovelies,

Today I have a favor to ask of you.  I want to know if a professional service dedicated to all things natural (products, styling, education) would be worth an investment.

Here’s the concept:

The idea behind this concept stems from the rising natural hair movement in the African American community.  The Natural Hair Bar will educate and preform the maintenance, health and growth of natural hair.  The products and services available will include: protective styling (braiding/weaves/wigs/etc.), protective styling tools (diffuser, etc.), imported hair, natural hair products (Jireh/Miss Jessies/Coconut Oil/etc.), Barbie dolls, flatirons, flexi-rods and stretching plates.  Partnerships with natural hair brands will be important as well as securing 100% remy, human hair imports.  There will also be certified natural hair stylist and education persons to ensure the highest quality for clients.  The Natural Hair Bar will be an upscale environment inclusive for women and men.

After reading this, what do you think? Would you enjoy something like this? Would you pay for it? How much?

Let me know, the good and especially THE BAD! Comment, comment, comment!

Stylist Alert!

Over the summer, I did a little bit of experimenting.  I got my first frontal! Being that this was a momentous occasion that deserved and required nothing but the best I had to get a stylist.  Hair is very important to me.  In my opinion it makes or breaks vision on any given day.  Also, I never let other people touch my hair, except for my sister (i.e. the person responsible for my custom colors) and the lovely Ms. Tina.  With that being said, the hunt was on to find a stylist. 


I believe the secret to successful hair is the right stylist (or at least a guiding hand).  Don’t flake on me and stop reading cause I said you need a stylist. In all actuality you don’t need a stylist but sometimes an expert opinion can be helpful even for the best do-it-yourselfers.

Trust me! I speak from experience. Your stylist is the person that’ll hit you with that reality check (ex. “cut them ends”).  A stylist isn’t there to scam money out of you or to hurt you in any way. You have to think of a stylist like your annual check up at the dentist. It’s your job to take care of your teeth but the dentists job to tell you you’re on the right track. The same goes for a stylist. They lay the ground work and you keep it going for the next three months.

Anyway, back to me so thanks to the lovely StyleSeat I was  able to find my stylist with no hassle at all.  When I tell you that Tea is heaven sent, I mean it! Y’all know all the black hair salon clichés, late, talking, ninety-nine kids running around, your hair is never dry, you don’t leave till forty-eight hours later etc.  There is absolutely none of that with Tea.  You have the salon and the chair all to yourself.  But that’s just icing on the cake, I found a stylist wth knowledge and skill.  The experience was cenetered around healthy, growing hair from the products used to how she layed the braids and the frontal.  Appointments every two weeks are insisted upon espeacially with a frontal not only to ensure that your hair slays but also for the care of your real hair, mainly those edges.

The tricky part about a stylist is finding one that has your best interest at heart. When I tell you quality over quantity you better believe it. You have to become the FBI when looking for a stylist. You dig up all their hair dirt. You can’t just take pictures you need testimonials and a trial run. Don’t just stick with anybody because there cheap. Cheap isn’t always better! Don’t stick around because of loyalty either. “She’s been doing my hair for years,” well that’s why it looks awful. Maybe you need to find somebody to put some redirection in your life. Your stylist should be just the right amount of wonderful in all aspects of hair, whether it’s natural or permed, braided or in locs, sew in, wig or lace. And you know you’ve found the right person when they hit you with “we’ve got to think about your edges”.  Truth is the most important factor in a stylist.


I’ve seen dozens of women with no edges and balding hair due to lack of hair care and a terribly indecent stylist. Moral of the story, if you don’t have a stylist get you one.

Do We Have A Problem

One thing that every natural girl knows is that she’s going to face some indefinent problems. Whether it’s that never ending struggle with shrinkage or someone just not understanding the motives behind her big chop.

  

1.Why can I never have a consistent curl pattern

           Maybe it’s just me but my curl pattern has never been consistent. The back of my        hair has always had a tighter curl than the sides and the top.  It can make life really difficult when you’re trying out new YouTube tutorials.

2.I’m not baldheaded! I’m reconstructing my curls!

           Just because someone decides on a big chop it does not mean that she has no hair, nor does it mean that she can’t grow hair.  Sometimes the most refreshing and helpful thing you can do for you hair is cut it.  Besides who doesn’t like trying out the cute short looks. I mean I live for @thecutlife on IG.

3.BAA (Big Ass Afro) & Long Hair Don’t Care are Equivalent

          Tight coils don’t always mean short hair.  Shrinkage is really real and it lies.  Shrinkage is basically the devil.

  

4.4C Hair Is Not Nappy

           There’s a strong perception in the media that loose curls are everything.  Don’t get me wrong they’re beautiful on the girls that have them.  But you know how society is if there’s a positive image there has to be a negative image.  So tight curls and kinky hair have been negated and to those persons who aren’t as culturally “woke” as others 4C hair can be seen as bad. Simply NOT true!

5. When Your Ends Dry Faster Than Your Roots

My own personal problem! Roots stay lying to you.  Wash days are tragic.  You think you’re all dry and that protective style is about to be lit.  Lies!  You’re roots have a different story.  Go ahead and two strand twists those bad boys back up.  You’re not going anywhere but to sleep until those roots dry.  Hopefully! Even in the morning you can be taking a chance.

6. Why Can I Never Just Use a Full Line of Products

I have never understood why I can’t use a complete product line.  At the most, I can use the same shampoo and conditioner, but then you add the oils, the hair milk, the holding gel, and my fav the edge control.  What is life without edge control?  Like why do companies even make full lines.  I know the technical reason I’ve learned about it in school but as a natural chick I just don’t see the purpose.

 

 

 

Izzy & Liv

Umm so what’s up with Izzy and Liv? I stumbled upon this black woman’s’ paradise a while ago and I had to share. If you didn’t know well now you do. You ever wonder where people get those tees that make you want to step back into the 90’s? Those tees that give you that old school Martin & Gina, Dwayne & Whitley, Love & Basketball kind of feel. Well Izzy & Liv is the place to get em!

Izzy & Liv, a should be cultural landmark. whose motto is “confidence, culture, soul, apparel you can relate to”, hit the mark when it comes to their products.  Not only are the products relatable to the fact that you’re black, they’re reminiscent of the one and only decade that changed the game-the 90’s of course! I mean not to brag or anything, but no other decade gave “relationship goals” like the 90’s.  You don’t believe me? Love Jones, Love & Basketball, The Best Man, The Wood, Brown Sugar, Poetic Justice, Boomerang, Soul Food, Waiting to Exhale (rock with me on this one, you know Gloria had a good man at the end), just to name a few.  But in all seriousness, Izzy & Liv is good for slaying your ethnic roots.  They even pay homage to our handsome young black men like Mr. Michael B. Jordan (talk about a Glo Up).

Nicole Brown launched this little ray of sunshine only last year.  Her inspirations were her two daughters.  The brand is the namesake of her daughters Izzy and Liv or Isabel and Olivia.  Brown reiterates what is constantly being said in the media that representation matters, specifically positive black representation.  She created her products to show her daughters all the wonderfulness that comes out of being black.  What a great way to never forget that your melanin is everything!

 

Lets be clear the ORIGINAL Ant Viv

Twinning!


In the words of Queen Bey herself


 

One time for the 90’s, T-Boz, Left Eye, Chilli

   

If this ain’t real!


#Goals (Jeans: H&M)

 

Be sure to go check out the site izzyandliv.com and follow on Instagram @izzyandliv

#UnfairAndLovely 

Unless you’re hiding under a rock, you’ve seen the recent hashtag #unfairandlovely. The hashtag and campaign were launched by three “unfair” students, of the University of Texas.  An extremely creative, Pax Jones photographed a series highlighting two of her fellow classmates, Mirusha and Yanusha Yogarajah. I don’t have to say it, the images speak for themselves.  These two ladies are more than stunning! The motive behind the campaign is to put an end to the whole dark is inferior stereotype and skin bleaching.  So many women not only African American but also South Asian, Indian and African women have to deal with society and media projecting the “light is right” image.

  

Being African American, my family has a multitude of shades.  However, my older sister and two out of three of her children have a lighter complexion.  My oldest niece and her oldest daughter, has a darker complexion than her sisters and mother.  Her twin, as I stated, is lighter but she’s also a lot more outgoing and loves to be the center of attention.  Her love of popularity, and the constant amount of people around her waiting to praise her with attention can be misconstrued to seem like she’s the prettier twin.  I’m not bragging but my nieces are the definition of beautiful.  Just because one has more likes on a photo than the other doesn’t take away any beauty from the other.  I’m dedicating this post to my niece because she, like me doesn’t like popularity or excessive attention.  I’m dedicating this post to her because even though she hears it at home one more time doesn’t hurt.  I’m dedicating this post to her because it’s completely ok to be what’s different in your environment.  I’m dedicating this to her because she’s truly beautiful.

This hashtag really hit home for me as I think it did for many people.  In a world, where selfies rule the day and self love is key, there are still so many that feel inadequate.  I completely support #unfairandlovely and everything it stands for.  I hope that this campaign touches the lives of many and shares the importance for beauty for the unfair with millions of little girls that struggle with it every day.

 

Bundle of Bundles 

Oh how we love the BUNDLES! Here are five places where you can get all your go to needs on bundles and wigs.

  
1.BIG CHOP HAIR: @bigchophair

BIG CHOP HAIR offers a range of extension products including bundles, clip-ins, partial wigs and closures.  Most of the items offered under BIG CHOP HAIR are of a natural texture, meaning curly.  The products span from all the hair types (Porosity, BKT & Other Strange Things ). There’s something for everyone whether curly or straight.  Also, with their products being real hair versus synthetic you  can be versatile and switch from look to look.

2.WowAfrican: @wowafrican

WowAfrican has bundles, closures- weaves and hair, lace fronts and partials  and clip-ins.  WowAfrican has a wide variety of virgin hair options ranging from Brazilian, Peruvian, Malaysian, Indian and European. They also offer hair accessories like clips for DIY clip-ins. WowAfrican also has straight, curly and coily options for all hair needs.  WowAfrican is also endorsed by YouTube vlogger and Instagram sensation Alyssa Forever (@foreverflawlyss).

  
3..HerGivenHair: @hergivenhair

HerGivenHair prides itself on offering extensions especially for those natural girls.  Clip-ins, bundles and closures are offered in all hair types/textures.  Along with hair, HerGivenHair also gives tutorials and hair inspiration on their website and social media pages for how to’s on wearing their product. HerGivenHair also offers blown out pieces for those girls who want a different kind of look or style.

4. City Republik: @citygirlcurlz

Along with wigs, both full and partial, City Republik also sells clothing.  City Republiks offerings aren’t as extensive as other sites.  However, the products they do sell for hair are quite beautiful.  The wigs sold are extremely full and voluptuous.  They give great body and life to whoever happens to wearing.  City Rebuplik also gives hair tutorials for their products and what other products work well.

5.Come Take A Puff: @cometakeapuff

Come Take A Puff speacilizes n custom units done by hand.  Wigs are the item of choice including lace fronts and bobs.  Items vary from short to long and curly to straight.  All items on Come Take A Puff are quality items made from quality hair.  They owner even wears them herself.  That’s how you know it’s good!