Stylist Alert!

Over the summer, I did a little bit of experimenting.  I got my first frontal! Being that this was a momentous occasion that deserved and required nothing but the best I had to get a stylist.  Hair is very important to me.  In my opinion it makes or breaks vision on any given day.  Also, I never let other people touch my hair, except for my sister (i.e. the person responsible for my custom colors) and the lovely Ms. Tina.  With that being said, the hunt was on to find a stylist. 


I believe the secret to successful hair is the right stylist (or at least a guiding hand).  Don’t flake on me and stop reading cause I said you need a stylist. In all actuality you don’t need a stylist but sometimes an expert opinion can be helpful even for the best do-it-yourselfers.

Trust me! I speak from experience. Your stylist is the person that’ll hit you with that reality check (ex. “cut them ends”).  A stylist isn’t there to scam money out of you or to hurt you in any way. You have to think of a stylist like your annual check up at the dentist. It’s your job to take care of your teeth but the dentists job to tell you you’re on the right track. The same goes for a stylist. They lay the ground work and you keep it going for the next three months.

Anyway, back to me so thanks to the lovely StyleSeat I was  able to find my stylist with no hassle at all.  When I tell you that Tea is heaven sent, I mean it! Y’all know all the black hair salon clichés, late, talking, ninety-nine kids running around, your hair is never dry, you don’t leave till forty-eight hours later etc.  There is absolutely none of that with Tea.  You have the salon and the chair all to yourself.  But that’s just icing on the cake, I found a stylist wth knowledge and skill.  The experience was cenetered around healthy, growing hair from the products used to how she layed the braids and the frontal.  Appointments every two weeks are insisted upon espeacially with a frontal not only to ensure that your hair slays but also for the care of your real hair, mainly those edges.

The tricky part about a stylist is finding one that has your best interest at heart. When I tell you quality over quantity you better believe it. You have to become the FBI when looking for a stylist. You dig up all their hair dirt. You can’t just take pictures you need testimonials and a trial run. Don’t just stick with anybody because there cheap. Cheap isn’t always better! Don’t stick around because of loyalty either. “She’s been doing my hair for years,” well that’s why it looks awful. Maybe you need to find somebody to put some redirection in your life. Your stylist should be just the right amount of wonderful in all aspects of hair, whether it’s natural or permed, braided or in locs, sew in, wig or lace. And you know you’ve found the right person when they hit you with “we’ve got to think about your edges”.  Truth is the most important factor in a stylist.


I’ve seen dozens of women with no edges and balding hair due to lack of hair care and a terribly indecent stylist. Moral of the story, if you don’t have a stylist get you one.

Do We Have A Problem

One thing that every natural girl knows is that she’s going to face some indefinent problems. Whether it’s that never ending struggle with shrinkage or someone just not understanding the motives behind her big chop.

  

1.Why can I never have a consistent curl pattern

           Maybe it’s just me but my curl pattern has never been consistent. The back of my        hair has always had a tighter curl than the sides and the top.  It can make life really difficult when you’re trying out new YouTube tutorials.

2.I’m not baldheaded! I’m reconstructing my curls!

           Just because someone decides on a big chop it does not mean that she has no hair, nor does it mean that she can’t grow hair.  Sometimes the most refreshing and helpful thing you can do for you hair is cut it.  Besides who doesn’t like trying out the cute short looks. I mean I live for @thecutlife on IG.

3.BAA (Big Ass Afro) & Long Hair Don’t Care are Equivalent

          Tight coils don’t always mean short hair.  Shrinkage is really real and it lies.  Shrinkage is basically the devil.

  

4.4C Hair Is Not Nappy

           There’s a strong perception in the media that loose curls are everything.  Don’t get me wrong they’re beautiful on the girls that have them.  But you know how society is if there’s a positive image there has to be a negative image.  So tight curls and kinky hair have been negated and to those persons who aren’t as culturally “woke” as others 4C hair can be seen as bad. Simply NOT true!

5. When Your Ends Dry Faster Than Your Roots

My own personal problem! Roots stay lying to you.  Wash days are tragic.  You think you’re all dry and that protective style is about to be lit.  Lies!  You’re roots have a different story.  Go ahead and two strand twists those bad boys back up.  You’re not going anywhere but to sleep until those roots dry.  Hopefully! Even in the morning you can be taking a chance.

6. Why Can I Never Just Use a Full Line of Products

I have never understood why I can’t use a complete product line.  At the most, I can use the same shampoo and conditioner, but then you add the oils, the hair milk, the holding gel, and my fav the edge control.  What is life without edge control?  Like why do companies even make full lines.  I know the technical reason I’ve learned about it in school but as a natural chick I just don’t see the purpose.

 

 

 

Bundle of Bundles 

Oh how we love the BUNDLES! Here are five places where you can get all your go to needs on bundles and wigs.

  
1.BIG CHOP HAIR: @bigchophair

BIG CHOP HAIR offers a range of extension products including bundles, clip-ins, partial wigs and closures.  Most of the items offered under BIG CHOP HAIR are of a natural texture, meaning curly.  The products span from all the hair types (Porosity, BKT & Other Strange Things ). There’s something for everyone whether curly or straight.  Also, with their products being real hair versus synthetic you  can be versatile and switch from look to look.

2.WowAfrican: @wowafrican

WowAfrican has bundles, closures- weaves and hair, lace fronts and partials  and clip-ins.  WowAfrican has a wide variety of virgin hair options ranging from Brazilian, Peruvian, Malaysian, Indian and European. They also offer hair accessories like clips for DIY clip-ins. WowAfrican also has straight, curly and coily options for all hair needs.  WowAfrican is also endorsed by YouTube vlogger and Instagram sensation Alyssa Forever (@foreverflawlyss).

  
3..HerGivenHair: @hergivenhair

HerGivenHair prides itself on offering extensions especially for those natural girls.  Clip-ins, bundles and closures are offered in all hair types/textures.  Along with hair, HerGivenHair also gives tutorials and hair inspiration on their website and social media pages for how to’s on wearing their product. HerGivenHair also offers blown out pieces for those girls who want a different kind of look or style.

4. City Republik: @citygirlcurlz

Along with wigs, both full and partial, City Republik also sells clothing.  City Republiks offerings aren’t as extensive as other sites.  However, the products they do sell for hair are quite beautiful.  The wigs sold are extremely full and voluptuous.  They give great body and life to whoever happens to wearing.  City Rebuplik also gives hair tutorials for their products and what other products work well.

5.Come Take A Puff: @cometakeapuff

Come Take A Puff speacilizes n custom units done by hand.  Wigs are the item of choice including lace fronts and bobs.  Items vary from short to long and curly to straight.  All items on Come Take A Puff are quality items made from quality hair.  They owner even wears them herself.  That’s how you know it’s good!

 

Lesson #1: The Unbreakable Bond

As a baby, our first loves become our mothers and fathers, siblings, grandparents, etc. They teach us life’s fundamentals like how to walk, talk, what to eat, what to wear.  They give us strength, courage, honesty and respect.  The people you look up to as a child become your first and greatest role models.  With that being said, every moment that we spend with them becomes more precious and the lessons they teach us become forever engrained into us.


One of the first lessons taught to little girls whether they know it or not is the importance of brushing her hair.  I know that sounds crazy but it’s true.  Some of my oldest memories are of me sitting in my grandmothers lap and getting my hair done. A little girl getting her hair combed has a deeper meaning.  It means a lot more than just getting pretty before the day begins.  It teaches the importance of loving yourself and everything that comes with it including your hair.  It teaches that your hair is an extension of yourself and that your maintenance and display of it can reveal more of your personality than a two hour conversation.

For a little girl, getting her hair done has just one large value, love.  Think about it.  When you’re out, let’s say at the mall, and you see a mother and daughter.  You look at the mother and she is slaying from Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.’s mountain top, then your eyes trickle on down to the little girl.  What do you see?  In your eyes, it’s an unloved little girl.  Yes, maybe she had a rough day at school.  Maybe during recess her edges got a little un-slicked.  Maybe nap time just a got a little to intense.  Hey, it happens to the best of us. However, that’s not the case in this scenario.  Why is that not the case? It’s not the case because you continue to look down at the little girl and her whole appearance just seems unkempt.  More than mismatched or tattered but uncared for.  When a little girl gets her hair done she knows she is loved unconditionally.

  
There’s a father and daughter on Instagram (@icemikeloveasia) and the two of them have gone completely viral.  Partly because Asia is like utterly adorable and also because of the concept behind the videos.  The father, Mike repeatedly displays his unconditional love for his daughter.  By simply brushing his daughters hair in the morning, he’s teaching her love for him, love for her, and love for her hair even if it’s different from mainstream media (long and straight).

  
 I remember spending Saturday’s with my daddy when I was little and mommy was at work.  Every Saturday morning he did my hair in two pig tails, quite nicely I might add.  Then we would go out, maybe to eat or maybe just to the store to gets parts for a car he was working on.  The point is that the destination didn’t matter only the action, the action of doing my hair.

  
My last piece of advice, on this post, is to do your daughters hair (your sons too for that matter).  It matters!

P.S. Don’t forget to do it properly. 

It’s Lit! 

Spring has arrived, and with it those lovely sun rays. It’s never easy when the heat comes around. Your hair can poof up with the humidity. It can curl up due to sweat, or it can simply dry up cause it’s too hot to hold the moisture in. Here are a few hacks to keep your hair in tact. 

Bantu Knot Up Do   

Bantu Knots are a quick and easy way to style your hair and they usually last for a good length of time. This protective style also works well with short or long hair and any type of cut. I have a short cut right now and the picture above shows me wearing the style. There’s no extra hair added. It’s all me. You simply brush up the back, hold it with whichever hold you use, and bantu knot the front. 

Braids/Cornrows  
Braids are the perfect way to beat the heat. Plus, there are a million different types of braids. My niece has the two long side cornrows. This has recently become a trendy style being worn by the Kardashians and renamed “boxer braids” 😂 but this post isn’t about appropriation. Don’t get me wrong I don’t have a problem with them wearing braids. I actually think they look really cute on them. I take issue with the fact that it wasn’t “cute” until the another culture started doing it. Anyway, there’s more than one opinion on the matter like there’s more than one type of braid. 

  

Here’s my very lovely Ms. Tatum making braids and twists look absolutely fabulous. 

Sew-In/Lace-Front  

Weaves and wigs are a perfect hack for summertime hair. You get a few good bundles and you’re all set. Sew-In methods like the Vixen Sew-In are perfect because they allow for versatility. Lace Front wigs have also made a fabulous comeback. Watch a couple tutorials on YouTube and you’ll see. The lace front game has definitely changed. 

Whatever style of method you choose to use I pray that the humidity doesn’t kill you and that your edges remain forever in place and laid to the gods. 

How Howard Changed Me 

So it’s safe to say I’ve come a long way from who I used to be. Where I’m from and where I am now are completely different. I’m sure you’re wondering what my life story has to do with hair, so I’ll tell you a story. 

  
Once upon a time, in the 757, there was a young girl- ME!  Anyway, all my life “I had to fight”-Color Purple, just playing I had natural hair. I never saw a perm. Although I did see that hot comb and all I had was sense enough to stay still and a prayer my grandmother had a steady hand. The sense took awhile to sink in. With that being said, I always wore my hair straight, well in braids and ponytails until I was like eleven or twelve. I had beautiful hair. It was thick, tight curled, 3C-4A hair and I was always curious about my curly hair. I remember staring in the mirror after getting it washed and playing in my curls wishing I could keep my hair like that. As I got older my curiosity grew. I always had the wash part down but I didn’t know how to maintain the go, so I ended up looking like Mufasa from Lion King. I was completely clueless. At my high school the only girls I really remember wearing natural hair were the mixed girls and while I have my fair share of non-African roots I’m still a black girl. There wasn’t a lot of natural hair inspiration. YouTube wasn’t popping with the tutorials like it is now or if it was I knew nothing about it. Natural hair just wasn’t prevelant. So I lived out 2008-2012 with my flowing, straight hair.   

  Fast forward to The Mecca, The Hilltop, The Real HU, Howard University. With an intro like that you know you’re bound to come up on some knowledge whether you’re trying to find it or not. My freshman year was a time of transition. I didn’t just have a natural hair inspiration I had a natural hair world. When you come to place that’s deep into it’s roots you learn to find your own roots, and that’s what I did, literally. I found my roots. I was researching natural hair, trying new protective styles, going to information sessions. There’s always a booth, table or something set up for hairstylists or companies. Miss Jessie’s always has a tent during homecoming. With such easy access to products and information I finally learned the “go” part. 

 

Whenever I go back home I always take a mental note of how things are very much the same as far as natural hair. There’s more now like my nieces and some of their friends but not a lot. I’ve noticed that the 757 has fallen into a stereotype. You know the one were there’s bad hair and if you’re black you automatically have it. So not true. There’s no representation. At Howard I see a variety of hair types and all are beautiful. I’ve seen the prettiest girls with the prettiest natural hair and guess what it’s that 4B hair. You know that hair that “isn’t quite good enough”. I just want my city to understand that it’s ok to be different. It’s ok to be the inspiration you see in others. Proctor and Gamble said it, “my black is beautiful”. My words of wisdom are that the best things are accidental and completely without precedent, so be that! 

  

Color Me … Uhh? 

So in 2015 and 2016 we’ve seen a lot being done with hair color. Gray, which looks so beautiful, green, pink, etc. All the colors pretty much look perfect when you’re glancing through pictures. 

  

But in reality color is still a CHEMICAL and it can be harsh on your hair without the proper care.  You have to be sure to take extra good care of your hair when you add color especially any type of color where you had to bleach your hair or add a developer (20,30 or 40 to lighten the color). Be sure to get a shampoo and conditioner for color treated hair and to continue with hair treatments-like those BKT’s we talked about. Keep your hair moisturized. Dry hair is bad enough on its  own but dry, colored hair has disaster and DAMAGE written all over it. Also, remember the golden rule don’t dye your hair again if it hasn’t been at least 2 weeks (1 if it’s a really bad color on you and you can’t wait another minute) 

  
Personally I don’t like to use box color it doesn’t really work for me. I go straight on down to Sally’s Beauty Supply and get the L’Oreal Excellence HiColor. This type of dye requires a developer and is permanent. My hair doesn’t take well to color so I’ve used a 40 developer. In this beautiful picture above is my lovely niece. She just got her hair dyed for the first time and it’s a box color. So box colors aren’t horrible and they probably work for most just not me. 

But box or permanent the same rules apply a and you have to maintain steady regimen to keep your hair healthy and intact. 

Why So Dry?

Dry curls are something that I personally have to work hard at avoiding. Some things that effect dry curls are dandruff, porosity-which we previously discussed and heat.  

Dandruff is a word that’s pretty common. You see commercials for it all the time with Head & Shoulders. But if you’re like me you know that shampoos like this aren’t always the cure for your dry hair. Sometimes dandruff can just be heredity from conditions like eczema. So you should always go to the doctor and check up on that because all the products in the world might not save you from something that’s naturally going to effect you. But as a backup, here are some things you should know. Coconut Oil, Cocounut Oil, Coconut Oil, I can’t say it enough. We’ve all seen those memes that say Cocount oil fixes everything and it’s kinda true.

 
Cocounut Oil is the best way and probably the easiest way to get rid of dandruff. Unless you like looking like a bowl of Frosted Flakes. Olive Oil also works well for removing dandruff. Basically if it’s an oil it’s more than likely going to be beneficial to you and your search for undesired dandruff. 

We’ve already had an intense discussion on porosity so I’ll just tell you to refer back to an older post, Porosity, BKT’s & Other Strange Things.

Heat is a topic of much discussion as it should be. While you’re effortlessly  walking around with you hair blowing in the wind, all the heat that was put into your hair for that Snapchat photo could be causing you more harm than good. Now as I’ve said before I use heat just as much as the next femele but all things in moderation. Excessive heat damage was a reason I cut my hair so too much can become a very big problem. Along with ruining your curl pattern, heat can be a major contributor to dandruff and dry scalp. Pulling back on your heat intake for two weeks or even a month or two can be great for your hair. I promise you you’ll see a difference. In January I ended my month and a half long no heat regimen and my hair was never better. There was growth, no dry scalp and moisture.  

Dry scalp is a problem for many a person but I hope a little of this knowledge can go a long way. 

What’s Life Without Your Favorite Things 

Favorite Styles: 

  1. Wash N’ Go
  2. Bantu Knot Out
  3. Flexi Rod Set
  4. Wash N’ Go Bun   
  5. Pin Curls 
  6. Heartless Curls 

 
Favorite Products: 

  1. OGX Coconut Milk Shampoo 
  2. OGX Coconut Milk Conditioner    
  3. Mixed Chicks Leave-In Conditioner 
  4. OGX Coconut Milk Anti-Breakage Serum 
  5. KeraCare Oil Sheen 
  6. Parachute Coconut Oil (IG:@naturallylit26)                        
  7. Olive Oil Wrap/Set Mousse 
  8. Ampro Shine n’ Jam 

  
Styles 1-4 I use on natural hair and I use products 1,3,6,7 & 8. Styles 3,5 & 6 I use on straight hair and I use products 1,2,4 & 5. 

My favorite styles are Bantu Knot Outs and Flexi Rod Sets. Usually I combine the styles. When I wear my natural hair with this short cut I use Bantu Knots and Flexi Rods on the longer pieces of my hair because that part still has heat damage on the ends. I’ve found that I like combining the protective styles because it gives the appearance of different curl types which is what your natural hair looks like anyway. 

As for the products, I’m absolutely in love with all OGX products, especially the coconut milk series. Since I cut my hair the Cocount Milk has really helped restore curls and keep them nice and tight. I only use Mixed Chicks occasionally and it’s usually for the purpose of keeping my hair moisturized when it’s natural. I try not to use Mixed Chicks when I plan on wearing straight hair because the product tends to weigh down my hair. Parachute Coconut Oil is simply a revelation. When my hair is natural, the Parachute Coconut oils keep my hair from being all dry and flaky. But like the Mixed Chicks conditioner I really only use it when I’m wearing natural. 

This has been a little insight into my fav things. Share yours in the comments! 

    What’s the Secret to a Successful Hair Flip?

     
    Seriously … what’s the big secret?  I mean look at Bey she kills a hair flip without moving her neck. I swear she has an invisible fan with her at all times. 

    Is it the eye contact or a good camera man or is just timing. Whatever it is for you tell us in the comments. Drop a video too. I love to support a good flip especially after a nice blow out!