Videos That Made Love Real 

SouthSide, Lloyd ft. Ashanti 

When Lloyd came out with SouthSide I was like 10 years old and completely in love with Lloyd and his beautiful hair and equally as obsessed with Ashanti.  That video was like the perfect amount of everything I needed love to be at 10. To be honest it’s still one my favorite songs. I guess it’s something fascinating about thinking about lying to your daddy over a guy. That’s like the two great loves in your life being at war over you. SouthSide to me was a positive image for black love. It was like I love you, you love me, let’s go get our chicken and love each other. 

You Don’t Know My Name, Alicia Keys 

We all know when Alicia dialed homeboys number to ask him on that date all out hearts dropped a little. I remember watching 106 & Park like girl don’t do that, you’re pretty you don’t need to act desperate. But in true Alicia Keys fashion, she showed us that men don’t always have to take the first step. Being older I realize that more, sometimes you have to put your big girl panties on and ask the hard questions.  You Don’t Know My Name also proved that pretty girls always respond to the man in the nice tailored suit.  Seriously though, Alicia was like every female ever feigning over the man of her dreams. It was poetic and beautiful. 

Promise, Jagged Edge 

It could just be me but I love me some Jagged Edge.  Promise was just what it’s name suggested. It proved that black love was real and that no matter the many inconveniences of daily life you could count on your partner to be down for you. 

We Belong Together, Mariah Carey 

My friends know that is one of my favorite videos of all time.  Who doesn’t end up in a rebound relationship where the person is really nice or whatever but they’re just not what you want for your life. Mariah embodied that. She showed black love and proved that real love means owning mistakes and taking the appropriate actions to not mess up your life forever by marrying someone not for you. Plus, that dress was EVERYTHING!

Walked Outta Heaven, Jagged Edge 

Of course, Jagged Edge again. Walked Outta Heaven screams love because he walked out but then he felt remorseful about it. And it wasn’t a little bit of remorse it was like ride around with your friends and talk about it until they feel crappy remorseful.  But he wasn’t just remorseful he was remorseful and came back. Let’s repeat that! He came back. Enough said. Any man or woman for that amatter who comes back after they probably should’ve won the argument proves they love you and they’re willing to work it out with you.

Why I Love You So Much, Monica 

My girl Monica. Everything Monica does is beautiful and inspiring but Why I Love You So Much stands out because it’s when she first came out so she was young. Monica was out here singing about her boo holding her down and waiting for her. For any young girl especially, finding someone who’s willing to not put pressure on you is a major find and worth singing about. Why I Love You So Much along with Before You Walk Out My Life displayed Monica’s maturity and her true understanding of real love. In both songs she stressed the importance of being comfortable which we sometimes forget. It’s easy to get caught up in what the other person wants and lose sight of yourself. Monica gave us love by telling us real love starts with self first. 

Dontchange, Musiq Soulchild 

Dontchange gives the world a glimpse into black love in truest form. This video shows the highs and lows of life and relationships.  Everyone wants to know somebody is going to be there when they’re 73 and all their body parts are falling off. Having the confidence in your significant other to constantly see the best in you when you don’t quite see it yourself is goals for every relationship.  

I’ll Make Love To You, Boyz II Men 

How could I possibly have a list about videos showing black love without Boyz II Men.  I remember being like 5 and 6 years old watching this old tape of videos with my big sister. Whenever I’ll Make Love To You came on I always thought when I grow up I’m going to have a boyfriend that buys me security systems and light candle for my bubble bath. Needless to say I’ll Make Love To You is where I’m trying to be in life. 

#ArmoireAddict: Butter&Gold 

Are Timbs a regional thing or a racial thing? I ask the question because Timbs have become a staple in the African American and Hispanic  culture. Everyone knows that any man, woman and baby has at least one pair of Timbs in New York.  That analysis makes the answer regional. However, the same can be assumed of those in D.C.  Whatever the real answer is one can’t deny the effect that the boots have on culture. You can even widen the scope. It’s no secret African American culture paves the way thus making Timbs culturally relevant to the fashionable and trendy.

90’s culture saw the rise of Timbs as a fashion statement and the 90’s rewind of the recent 2010’s has recovered its visibility.  Timbs relevancy in our daily life has even gone so far as to project the status of the wearer.  Like who doesn’t want a family picture with hubby and the baby and everybody’s wearing Timbs? Pictures like that exude prosperity and happiness. Ok, that might be a stretch but you get the point.

Izzy & Liv

Umm so what’s up with Izzy and Liv? I stumbled upon this black woman’s’ paradise a while ago and I had to share. If you didn’t know well now you do. You ever wonder where people get those tees that make you want to step back into the 90’s? Those tees that give you that old school Martin & Gina, Dwayne & Whitley, Love & Basketball kind of feel. Well Izzy & Liv is the place to get em!

Izzy & Liv, a should be cultural landmark. whose motto is “confidence, culture, soul, apparel you can relate to”, hit the mark when it comes to their products.  Not only are the products relatable to the fact that you’re black, they’re reminiscent of the one and only decade that changed the game-the 90’s of course! I mean not to brag or anything, but no other decade gave “relationship goals” like the 90’s.  You don’t believe me? Love Jones, Love & Basketball, The Best Man, The Wood, Brown Sugar, Poetic Justice, Boomerang, Soul Food, Waiting to Exhale (rock with me on this one, you know Gloria had a good man at the end), just to name a few.  But in all seriousness, Izzy & Liv is good for slaying your ethnic roots.  They even pay homage to our handsome young black men like Mr. Michael B. Jordan (talk about a Glo Up).

Nicole Brown launched this little ray of sunshine only last year.  Her inspirations were her two daughters.  The brand is the namesake of her daughters Izzy and Liv or Isabel and Olivia.  Brown reiterates what is constantly being said in the media that representation matters, specifically positive black representation.  She created her products to show her daughters all the wonderfulness that comes out of being black.  What a great way to never forget that your melanin is everything!


Lets be clear the ORIGINAL Ant Viv


In the words of Queen Bey herself


One time for the 90’s, T-Boz, Left Eye, Chilli


If this ain’t real!

#Goals (Jeans: H&M)


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