Push Through Monica 

The 90’s gave us many great things, one being R&B singer Monica Brown. Monica touched our hearts with “Why I Love You So Much” and “Before You Walk Out My Life” among others hits on her debut album “Miss Thang”. She gave every female an anthem along with Brandy in “The Boy Is Mine” and gave us a tune to sing as we dismantle his car (JK! I never approve of ruining personal property), with “So Gone”.  Monica has continued to give us heart felt soul and TLC through her music. She guides us through love. Helps us accept love and even holds our hand as we get over it.  

Aside from her music, Monica has given us relationship goals with her marriage to NBA player Shannon Brown and family goals with her kids Romelo, Rodney and Laiyah. She creates a life to aspire to. No her life isn’t perfect. I’m sure she’s had marital discourse she’s married to an athlete. No shade but athletes get a bad rep in relationships. Everyone is susceptible to cheating but athletes get an unfair advantage.  Her kids probably irritate her soul some days but she still shows us the wonderful things her kids do.  She’s made my heart melt with her kids pictures. Through whatever she continues to be PRIVATE, POSITIVE and NEVER PETTY. Let’s face it, that’s a pretty hard thing to do in 2017.  

What I absolutely love about Monica and what prompted me to write this post is her effect as a cheerleader. I can go on Instagram everyday and see Monica in my feed supporting somebody. Real, genuine support. No matter who someone is or what their background is you can see Monica opening her arms and telling the world they’re about to be somebody.  Her support for women and African Americans and anybody in general is unreal. She has talent and she has no problem spreading her talent or her love. Monica throws love not shade! 

My auntie always told me that pretty is as pretty does. Monica embodies that to me. She isn’t just a pretty face. Her ability to be relatable in every part of her life and her genuine additiude make her beautiful. We know black don’t crack but beauty on the inside makes the outside more attractive. Shoutout to Monica for making me want to glow up inside! 

Why Rush?

It’s no secret that the world we live in is fast-paced.  We’re all in this constant battle with ourselves and the world around us.  There’s always a need for more time, always complaints that there just aren’t enough hours in the day and what not.  But if we had more time what would we really do with it?  If there was a 25th hour how many of us would still spend it complaining we didn’t have enough time?

Anyone that knows me knows my family is the MAJOR KEY in my life.  I’m a little country girl who grew up being raised by my family as a whole not just my parents.  My time now is spent on endless conversations with them. They’re my peace and the people who keep me grounded.  They wipe my tears, they make my laugh, they are my reason to succeed in life. An extra hour would most likely be spent on them and online shopping (technology is helpful life that).
Kierra, Kimoni and Shyla, three out of four of my many nieces, usually are the bulk of my family conversations.  During these FaceTime calls, I’ve realized that being their ages (14, 14 and 8) there’s a huge need to be more that what you are.  The twins are about to turn 15 in like two weeks and of course they’re planning what they want to wear and who they want to come to their dinner and all that extra stuff and  they’re sending pictures of outfits to me to look at and I’m realizing they don’t want to turn 15 and have a dinner they want to look like they’re turning 21 and buying a table at Stadium.  Now, I know that’s not really what they want and I know that being a teenager you want people to recognize your growth and maturity but at the same time it feels to me like they’re taking two jumps forward instead of one step ahead.  I know I’m probably overreacting like the old auntie that I am but sometimes I just need them to chill and fantasize about when they’re braces come off.

The point to the madness of my rant is that rarely do we take a moment or a day and simply focus on the now.  I do it myself.  I’m always inside my head wondering what if I don’t get this job, what if I do, where should I be at 22 years old etc. etc.   It seems to me like we spend our lives thinking and planning for later when we should really enjoy now. So my challenge for myself and my readers is to take some time once in while and capture the grandeur that you never think to notice.   My favorite movie is and always will be Pocahontas and one of the best parts of the movie was Disney’s ability to capture the lack of acceptance we have as humans.  I know you’ve all seen the movie so y’all know the seen where John Smith is talking about how they’re going to steal the land and build all this extra stuff and Pocahontas is like “yo bruh, chill for a sec, take a moment and embrace the fact your’re in a new environment and it just might have something to give you if you wait for the opportunity”.  That’s like the hood synopsis version but you get the point.

Stop rushing and live!