New Business …. Who This?

Hey lovelies!!!!!

I know it’s been a while, like a whole year. I’ve been experiencing life after Howard and the whole adulting world. However, I plan to be back in full effect. New hair, new outfits and new topics.

Now that I’m 24. I want to start something that has always been on my heart. I’ve always been obsessed with hair and everything that comes with it. I want to own my own thing and make something magical out of it. I want to be classic like Fenty Beauty and leave a legacy for my kids like Jay and Bey. So here it is or the start of it anyway…..

Heir Extensions. Virgin Brazilian and Malaysian bundles and wigs for sell. I’d like to add more pieces so tell me what you guys think. Buy and try some pieces if the spirit moves you. Let me know things you’d like to see and send in some reviews so I know how to perfect the brand.

Thanks for listening! I hope you share and click and buy and all that good stuff. I’ll be back in a few days with an update from my closet. 💋

You Know You’re Growing When You Know Better 

One of my friends asked me, “since finishing college, how have you grown or changed since we met freshman year”? My answer was short and simple. I know I’ve grown up because I can look at situation an know it’s not a good look for me. 

At 19 and even 20, I was in some situations, relationships, situationships or whatever you want to call them that placed obstacles and unnecessary frustration in my life. Some people or things really just become distractions. They deter you from goals or you let yourself get thrown off your game. Of course like everyone else I look back now approaching 23 like where was my thought process. Better yet, why was there NO throught process. 

I’ve always thought of myself as pretty mature for whatever age I was at the time but that didn’t stop me from being petty or stupid. I would do certain things to get a reaction or because I thought it would effect someone else’s choice regarding me.  I see now that nine times out of ten it really only hurt me. Nothing I ever did in the hopes of making someone else regret loosing me or getting their attention worked to my advantage.  

Growing up means taking a step back and analyzing it for what it is not what you want it to be. It also means having standards and keeping them. 

For example, you might want a new relationship but is the guy that just approached you really worth it. True you can’t judge a book by its cover but actions will always speak louder than words.  Yea you just met this person and no they’re not obligated to you in any way, shape or form but picking a candidate for a relationship is more than a nice compliment before asking you for your number. Did he look you in your eyes? Did he ask questions about what you do or like to do or even talk about what he likes outside of “chilling” and popping his bros ONE bottle at the club? Was he considerent? Did he even ask if you were single? Did you see him hit up every other pretty girl in the venue? 

All I’m saying is assess the situation sis! True story, over the weekend this I can’t even put it into words he was so fine guy came up to me at the club. He said I was gorgeous and asked what I was trying to get into and what’s my number. Now I’m a be honest it was hard as much as I wanted to let him have that number I couldn’t do it. I looked at him and I saw a past situation. I saw a 19 year old Dom and I wasn’t the right fit for me. I need more than chilling at your house while your smoking at 23. I should’ve needed more at 19 but you have to learn and start somewhere. 

Growing is a process and I’ll always be learning but some lessons I can spare cause I can already tell it’s not where I need to be. 

Why Rush?

It’s no secret that the world we live in is fast-paced.  We’re all in this constant battle with ourselves and the world around us.  There’s always a need for more time, always complaints that there just aren’t enough hours in the day and what not.  But if we had more time what would we really do with it?  If there was a 25th hour how many of us would still spend it complaining we didn’t have enough time?

Anyone that knows me knows my family is the MAJOR KEY in my life.  I’m a little country girl who grew up being raised by my family as a whole not just my parents.  My time now is spent on endless conversations with them. They’re my peace and the people who keep me grounded.  They wipe my tears, they make my laugh, they are my reason to succeed in life. An extra hour would most likely be spent on them and online shopping (technology is helpful life that).
Kierra, Kimoni and Shyla, three out of four of my many nieces, usually are the bulk of my family conversations.  During these FaceTime calls, I’ve realized that being their ages (14, 14 and 8) there’s a huge need to be more that what you are.  The twins are about to turn 15 in like two weeks and of course they’re planning what they want to wear and who they want to come to their dinner and all that extra stuff and  they’re sending pictures of outfits to me to look at and I’m realizing they don’t want to turn 15 and have a dinner they want to look like they’re turning 21 and buying a table at Stadium.  Now, I know that’s not really what they want and I know that being a teenager you want people to recognize your growth and maturity but at the same time it feels to me like they’re taking two jumps forward instead of one step ahead.  I know I’m probably overreacting like the old auntie that I am but sometimes I just need them to chill and fantasize about when they’re braces come off.

The point to the madness of my rant is that rarely do we take a moment or a day and simply focus on the now.  I do it myself.  I’m always inside my head wondering what if I don’t get this job, what if I do, where should I be at 22 years old etc. etc.   It seems to me like we spend our lives thinking and planning for later when we should really enjoy now. So my challenge for myself and my readers is to take some time once in while and capture the grandeur that you never think to notice.   My favorite movie is and always will be Pocahontas and one of the best parts of the movie was Disney’s ability to capture the lack of acceptance we have as humans.  I know you’ve all seen the movie so y’all know the seen where John Smith is talking about how they’re going to steal the land and build all this extra stuff and Pocahontas is like “yo bruh, chill for a sec, take a moment and embrace the fact your’re in a new environment and it just might have something to give you if you wait for the opportunity”.  That’s like the hood synopsis version but you get the point.

Stop rushing and live!